Your senior family member might not be as excited about hiring elder care providers as you might be. That’s normal and there are some things you can do to help her become accustomed to the idea.
Listen to Why She’s Objecting
If your elderly family member feels as if this is a unilateral decision you’re making, it can be fear-inducing for her. Try sitting down with her and asking her exactly why she’s not excited about this idea. She might let you know that it’s embarrassing to her or that she’s afraid of having someone at the house that she doesn’t know. These are situations you can work with and solve for her.
Some of the concerns she may have could be purely emotional, like the fact that you’re hiring elder care providers means you’re stepping away as her caregiver. These are important emotional reactions you can address once you realize they’re occurring.
Talk about Why You’re Hiring Them
Your senior may not fully understand why you’re in need of some help. Be honest with her about the toll that caregiving is taking on you. It’s about letting her know that you value and prioritize her care and you want to give her the best care possible. Your senior may not realize that you’re in need of help.
Take Things Slowly and Ease into a Fuller Schedule
There’s nothing that says you need to hire elder care providers to come in every day, all day long. Especially in the beginning, you may only want an hour or two of help a week. Make sure that you’re there and that you are able to introduce your senior to her home care providers. Gradually as your needs and your senior’s needs change, so too might the schedule.
Try to Avoid Fibbing, but Keep the Option Open
Some caregivers opt to tell their aging adult some things that aren’t strictly true in order to win them over to the idea of hiring elder care providers. You might have to resort to fibbing here and there, but damaging your elderly family member’s trust in you can be really bad for your relationship. Think before you take that step.
You might find that you have to back away from the topic for a little while. Some aging adults will dig in their heels even further if you keep trying to talk about a particular subject. Wait for a sign that your elderly family member is more open to the idea and try bringing it up then.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Elder Care Services in Philadelphia PA, please contact the caring staff at True Direct Home Health Care today.
Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise.
"Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.