Other family members may love to share their feelings with you about what you’re doing as a caregiver. More often than not, they’re going to do that in a way that doesn’t feel very good to you. But they’re not really involved in what’s going on, so why do they have so much to say?
They Want to Do More, But Can’t
Your other family members might have really good reasons for not being able to help you and your aging adult more than they do. But that doesn’t mean that they feel good about it. And because they’re human, that sometimes means that they take out their issues on other people. In this case, that means that you’re taking the brunt of their bad mood.
You’re the Perceived “Favorite”
When your aging adult is shouting at you because you didn’t do something the “right” way, you might not feel much like the favorite. But from the outside of the situation looking in, other family members might perceive you as the flavor of the day and that can make them feel a bit salty in response. You can try to change their mind about this, but it’s not necessarily going to be easy to do.
Changes to Your Senior’s Health Are Difficult to See
It’s really difficult to see someone you love struggling and you already know that because you’re right there in it, every day. Some people aren’t able to get that close to a difficult situation, though. So because it’s tough for them to see your senior having a hard time, it’s easier for them to give you a hard time instead. It doesn’t make sense, but it happens way too often.
They Don’t Know How to Talk to You about Caregiving
Believe it or not, some people are so bad at communicating about caregiving that they may actually believe that their harsh criticism is helpful to you. Unless they become caregivers themselves, they may not see how hurtful they’re being. Talking to them about what you really need from them can help, but unfortunately it’s not a guarantee.
You can’t let other peoples’ opinions get to you as a caregiver. Seek out the support of home care providers and know that you’re doing the best that you can do. If you do see areas in which you can be a better caregiver, by all means make those changes. But don’t let criticism get you down.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Caregiver Services in Darby PA, please contact the caring staff at True Direct Home Health Care today.
Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise.
"Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.
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