It is never easy to lose a family member. The grieving process is complicated and it can leave you feeling as if you’re doing or saying the wrong thing. It’s important to remember that there’s no one right way for you to process your grief.
Remember that Everyone Experiences Grief in a Different Way
Not everyone mourns the same way. Some people can’t stand to see references or pictures of the person they’ve lost while others want to immerse themselves in every part of their senior’s life. Everyone is going to approach their grief differently and that’s okay. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do in order to deal with your loss the best way that you can.
You’ll Feel Other Emotions, Too
Some people tend to want to believe that if they’re grieving, then there’s no room for anything else. But humans are complicated emotional creatures. You’re capable of feeling sad, happy, angry, and many more emotions all within the same day. Don’t try to make yourself or anyone else feel shamed because they’re experiencing a wide range of emotions in addition to grief.
There’s no Timeline for Grieving
You may have run across people at some point in your life who told you that someone in their life was taking too long to mourn. There’s really no timetable for grief at all. Some people take a shorter amount of time to process a loss while others may feel as if they never come to terms with their grief. Whichever applies to you is okay because it’s your individual experience with grief and loss.
You Won’t Forget Your Loved One
Whether you’ve been a caregiver for years or only for a short time, you might worry that overcoming your grief might mean that you start to forget your aging adult. You’ll never do that, though. There are so many memories from your life together, both before caregiving and after, that you will remember time and again. You may want to solidify that feeling for yourself by setting up a way to memorialize your elderly family member that you can see every single day.
No matter who you’ve lost, it’s never easy to know that they’re gone from your life. Be gentle with yourself as you’re dealing with your grief and know that you’ll have good days again in the future. Get help if you’re still having trouble processing your loss, because you don’t have to go through this alone.
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Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise.
"Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.
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