There’s a lot that humans, especially busy humans, tend to focus on as really important. It’s only later that you might realize that some of the things that had your focus and your attention the most maybe weren’t as important as they seemed at the time. Take some time to sift through what really matters and what you can let go so you can focus on the stuff that means the most.
Let Go of What Doesn’t Really Matter
What is it that really doesn’t matter? For instance, do you have to reply to every email that needs a response within a few minutes after it arrives? Does your home have to be completely spotless every moment of every day? These little things seem important at first, but what they have in common is a quest for perfection. And perfection is really difficult, if not impossible, to achieve with regularity.
Ask What Your Priorities Are
If you’re willing to let go of what doesn’t matter, you need to know what does matter. So what are your priorities? Your senior may have some specific needs and those definitely make your list. Sit down and determine what your other priorities are. You’re going to want to include anything that is a “must” over anything that falls under “would be nice.”
Give Yourself the Grace that You Give to Others
As a caregiver, you’re likely full up on what you need to get done every day. Give yourself the same grace that you would give to other people. For instance, you might make exceptions for other people because they’re busy or because they’re spent. Are you allowing yourself the same exceptions? If not, it’s time to make a shift.
Stop the Rushing
Above all, you have to stop rushing yourself through your life. You’re only going to have this one opportunity to be a caregiver to your aging family member. It’s important to enjoy the time that you have with her. When you’re rushing, there’s a lot that you’re going to miss that you can’t get back. Focus on what has to be done and cherish the rest.
When you’re a caregiver, focusing on all the little stuff that doesn’t matter is what can get you into trouble. Sure, you want your senior and yourself to live in a clean, spotless home. But if that’s making you feel overwhelmed, it’s not worth your mental health. Clutter-free, safe, and livable is much more realistic.
Excerpt: In the end, some of the things you might be worried about every day aren’t as important as you think they are.
If you or an aging loved one are considering a Caregiver in Broomall, PA, please contact the caring staff at True Direct Home Health Care today.
Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise.
"Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.
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